As humanity marches ever forward and makes progress on numerous fronts, one thing that has been discovered is the process by which we learn to connect with the world around us. Emotions might be caused by changes in your brain chemistry and the firing of neurons, but suffice it to say that this is just the first layer of how they occur, and delving deeper beyond the surface can teach you the significance of emotional regulation. One of the many pieces of knowledge you will gain about emotions and how they function is that a secure attachment to a caregiver during childhood is indispensable for the most part.
The reason behind this is that ARC model traumas occur precisely due to issues in connecting with a parent or loved on in the days of your youth. If you have a strong bond that does not use any kind of manipulation, you will see your parents or caregivers reacting to stimuli and base your own reactions on theirs. Not getting this early on in life will obviously lead to emotional regulation issues. This is referred to as emotional dysregulation, and it usually manifest as disproportionately extreme responses to relatively minor occurrences in your daily existence.
The lack of a secure attachment doesn’t necessarily condemn you to a lifetime of emotional dysregulation, though. If you are willing to put in some good old fashioned hard work with a therapist, you can unravel the mechanics of the brain and let go of at least some of the trauma that is holding you back. Just make sure that you don’t use your therapist as a placeholder for a caregiver through emotional transference. This is a common issue, but it is one that you can steer clear of as long as some ground rules are established right off of the bat all in all.